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Leader,
This
Key explores three vital skills you did not learn in school
and had to discover for yourself. Failing to master these
skills brings more strife and pain than anything else.
Proficiency in these three skills opens the door to tremendous
well being and to actualizing your goals and realizing your
hopes. As a parent, know that your children will need to
discover these three capabilities for themselves, perhaps with
your help, if you are available. We'll be glad to hear from
you with your comments. Please feel free to forward the Key to
friends, family and associates.
Sincerely,
Aviv
Shahar
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Three Things You Did Not
Learn In School December
2007
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Back in the summer of 2002 our son completed 9th grade
and was on target to attend Woodinville High School. On
our annual summer hike, as we conversed about the challenges
and opportunities of the next year, I said: "By all means
excel in your studies and in the subjects you like. Just know
that school with all its many good things is not going to
teach you the three most vital skills that are a struggle and
preoccupation for adults. You have to learn to manage these
skills in this life if you are to be independent and free, and
to succeed and thrive."
Hiking the Pacific Northwest
provided a great background for our conversation. The turns of
the trail offered natural commas, periods and exclamation
marks; the forest provided the cathedral of nature and the
mountain lake we were heading toward made for a natural point
of realization. We played the "Can you guess the three
skills?" game and then zeroed in on them:
The three skills
are:
First - Learn to manage your energy
Second -
Learn to manage your relationships
Third - Learn to manage
your money
I sought to be a good father preparing his
son for the future and said: "School will not teach you these
skills. You must discover for yourself how to best manage your
energy; you have to find out how to build and hold
relationships and you've got to learn to manage your money."
Let's see what areas of knowledge are included in each
of these three skills:
First - To manage your energy you
need to
1. know yourself.
2.
understand your strengths and talents.
3. recognize
your vulnerabilities and weaknesses.
4. use your
body wisely.
5. manage your emotions.
6. discover what relaxes you and how to rest
well.
7. appreciate what energizes you and gets you
going.
8. identify what drains you and minimize its
presence in your life.
9. discover what you enjoy
and what helps you grow.
10. clarify your goals, aims and
purpose.
Second - To
manage your relationships you need to
1. learn
to be a good listener.
2. build the capacity to
appreciate another person's viewpoint.
3. practice
clear and eloquent communication.
4. seek to
understand before you expect to be understood.
5.
develop inter-personal effectiveness.
6. understand
the anatomy of trust and how to build it.
7.
cultivate emotional and social intelligence.
8. learn
to say NO.
9. develop genuine interest in other
people's experience.
10. be an effective leader, a wise
follower and a great collaborator.
Third - To manage your money you
need to
1. understand the nature of money and
your relationships with it.
2. appreciate the
difference between "want" and "must" in all areas of
life.
3. recognize that what matters is not how much
you earn but how much you spend.
4. make a commitment
to pay yourself first. Automatically save at least 10% of your
income. If you can do more, do more.
5. build an
emergency cushion of cash - three to six months
expenses.
6. interview as many financial planners as
you need in order to find a trusted advisor. Make sure you
understand what they say.
7. have a financial plan.
Identify the best retirement account you can have and make the
maximum contribution allowed.
8. simplify your life:
automate your bills. Accelerate paying your mortgage
payments.
9. be clear about the difference between
good debt and bad debt. Don't do bad debt.
10. understand
the difference between working for money and money working for
you. And remember the one you work for is waiting for you at
home.
In an enlightened 21st century world youth
would be coached in these three areas. Every 18-year-old needs
to know how to handle and manage these three important
currencies that will ultimately determine how much he or she
can enjoy life:
1st - Energetic currency
2nd -
Relational currency
3rd - Financial currency
Now
it's your turn. Turn the key. Be your own leader.
©
Aviv Shahar |
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